Last night we met some friends for a drink and the subject of working with partners came up.
One of our friends was sharing that she and her husband also worked together for a while but it didn’t work out and before their love relationship would suffer they stopped.
Back in the day when I used to work in the hotels I always used to think how much I would like to work with Ian and spend more time with him.
I never felt that it was enough to be with Ian just evenings, weekends and holidays.
On one of our first holidays we went to Portugal, to get some things sorted in my apartment. This is when we had our first experience of working together, redecorating the apartment and so on.
We loved so much and worked so well together that on that holiday we decided that we would find a way to work together and then the idea of a yoga business came up.
Ian had only been practicing yoga for a few months, I had been practicing Yoga for a few years, had recovered from my depression and knew that I wouldn’t want to work the rest of my life in the corporate world, or I would have another breakdown.
When we got back we looked into doing the teacher training in the studio we were attending classes, Hot Power Yoga in Clapham. We didn’t even look anywhere else, there was no need, we liked the classes there, we trusted the teachers and liked every teacher.
That’s it … 6 months later we were both signed up and ready to start the teacher training in February.
Fast forwarding 4,5 years and here we are working together, spending more time with Ian like I always wanted.
Has it been like that holiday in Portugal redecorating the apartment?
Has it been as easy as I thought it would be?
Have we had arguments and it affected our relationship outside work?
Have we thought that maybe its not going to work out and we should go separate ways?
Have things improved since we started working together, almost a year ago?
Someone told me at the conference last week in Stamford “ Well done! It is hard enough to have a happy relationship and even harder to work with your partner.”
The thing is that I never even consider not working with Ian on our Yoga dream.
Every time we have disagreements or we get fed up of one another, it is just that, an emotion passing by that will go as easy as it came.
Our love relationship always goes back to how it was before the argument, there’s no resentment, revenge or hard feelings.
So the arguments, the annoyances, the frustrations are just part of me and Ian learning how to work with each other, learning how to run the business, learning how to support each other and very often learning about ourselves.
Recently I shared that I learnt, from an argument we had, that I expect him to work like I do and that I have to be more understanding. I have also learnt that my bossy tone makes me sound like Ian’s mum and he rebels against it like a 13 year old kid.
It actually becomes quite fun when we start to understand the origin of our behaviours and actions.
And for this we will always be improving our working relationship, we will grow old together, we will go crazy together and I can feel it, deep, very deep inside of me that something bigger will always keeps us together.
If you are working with your partner or are planning to work with your partner, I am not an expert but what works for us is always to go back to why we are together. The answer is always: because we love each other above all, it is not the studio, the house, the circumstance that "makes us together" but the human to human love.
Namaste! with 💛
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